Message to families of missing people
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May 25, 2009 International Missing Children's Day
I wanted to say a huge thank you to everyone involved in
organizing all the events surrounding International Missing
Children's day in London last Monday, especially the NPIA for
including my son Damien Nettles in this event. Thanks to
ForeverSearching who organized the second March for the
Missing and events in Leicester and to all of you for remembering
that there are too many people of all ages gender and race that
go missing each year.....every day, every hour someone goes
missing somewhere. We all know that there are various reasons
children and adults go missing and a large percentage are
recovered. Some are somewhat explained e.g. when it is a
known parental abduction, 'we know what happened' to an
extent. If it is abuse and someone leaves, it is understood that
there was a reason. But in many cases such as mine and Nicki's
our sons were out in town with friends one minute and vanished
the next for no apparent reason. The 'not knowing' 'not having a
clue' is the hardest part of trying to cope for the family left
behind. You know nothing and so you think of everything that
could have happened, was he murdered, did he cry for us, is he
buried in a shallow grave, did he suffer. Every gruesome thought
plagues our minds because we have nothing, nothing. These
are not lost puppies, but flesh and blood, our babies who we
watched grow into fine young men.....gone, just gone. The faces
you see on the posters are real people who have family who
grieve for them. So here we are, yet another year rolls around
and we are still fighting to get our missing loved ones faces out
there, hoping that one day, someone will come forward with that
vital information and bring us some closure. All I want is to find
my son, whatever the circumstance may be. We need closure
and to know what happened to him...we are prepared for the
worst and pray for the best outcome. Thanks again to everyone
who organized and participated in the events for this special day.
Valx
May 2009
I recently learned that the attempt, by a concerned citizen on the
Isle of Wight, for a reward to be set up for information about
what happened to Damien has been thwarted. The large ferry
operators between Cowes and the Isle of Wight were
approached but declined to help.......see article in Isle of Wight
County Press January 2008.
5/10/2009 To Damien...today is Mother's Day and I
miss you.....
Forever Searching a group of dedicated people who give
time to help raise awareness for missing people are organising a
March for the Missing in Leicester on Sunday 24th May, all are
welcome to attend please go to their website
foreversearching.com for further details.
Note: Due to circumstances beyond our control, we are
canceling the March for the Missing in London in March 2009.
We apologize to anyone who would have come out to support
us. Nicki and I are aware of the toll it took on us both last year,
and the financial toll, we both agree that we cannot undertake
that project again on our own. If anyone out there wants to take
over this project please contact us at themissing@hotmail.co.uk
Thank you for your continued interest in our missing boys and
the issue of missing people in general. Niki and I continue to
plan other ideas that will result in better services for the families
and those left behind to cope when a loved one goes
missing.........
MISSING PEOPLE ARE NOT A NEW ISSUE
Parent’s and families of missing people are coming together with
a “voice in unison” regarding the phenomenon of missing people.
Whatever the circumstances are that a person may go missing, it
is a living nightmare for those left behind. For all families, who
have a family member that has gone missing, we are asking for
the government to help and support us in this dilemma.
It can no longer be left to the family and the local authorities to
handle these cases.
We would like the government to address this problem by
passing of a bill for the ‘Missing’ and to make available funds to
support and counsel and advise the families left behind to deal
with this dilemma.
themissing@hotmail.co.uk
I wanted to say a huge thank you to everyone involved in
organizing all the events surrounding International Missing
Children's day in London last Monday, especially the NPIA for
including my son Damien Nettles in this event. Thanks to
ForeverSearching who organized the second March for the
Missing and events in Leicester and to all of you for remembering
that there are too many people of all ages gender and race that
go missing each year.....every day, every hour someone goes
missing somewhere. We all know that there are various reasons
children and adults go missing and a large percentage are
recovered. Some are somewhat explained e.g. when it is a
known parental abduction, 'we know what happened' to an
extent. If it is abuse and someone leaves, it is understood that
there was a reason. But in many cases such as mine and Nicki's
our sons were out in town with friends one minute and vanished
the next for no apparent reason. The 'not knowing' 'not having a
clue' is the hardest part of trying to cope for the family left
behind. You know nothing and so you think of everything that
could have happened, was he murdered, did he cry for us, is he
buried in a shallow grave, did he suffer. Every gruesome thought
plagues our minds because we have nothing, nothing. These
are not lost puppies, but flesh and blood, our babies who we
watched grow into fine young men.....gone, just gone. The faces
you see on the posters are real people who have family who
grieve for them. So here we are, yet another year rolls around
and we are still fighting to get our missing loved ones faces out
there, hoping that one day, someone will come forward with that
vital information and bring us some closure. All I want is to find
my son, whatever the circumstance may be. We need closure
and to know what happened to him...we are prepared for the
worst and pray for the best outcome. Thanks again to everyone
who organized and participated in the events for this special day.
Valx
May 2009
I recently learned that the attempt, by a concerned citizen on the
Isle of Wight, for a reward to be set up for information about
what happened to Damien has been thwarted. The large ferry
operators between Cowes and the Isle of Wight were
approached but declined to help.......see article in Isle of Wight
County Press January 2008.
5/10/2009 To Damien...today is Mother's Day and I
miss you.....
Forever Searching a group of dedicated people who give
time to help raise awareness for missing people are organising a
March for the Missing in Leicester on Sunday 24th May, all are
welcome to attend please go to their website
foreversearching.com for further details.
Note: Due to circumstances beyond our control, we are
canceling the March for the Missing in London in March 2009.
We apologize to anyone who would have come out to support
us. Nicki and I are aware of the toll it took on us both last year,
and the financial toll, we both agree that we cannot undertake
that project again on our own. If anyone out there wants to take
over this project please contact us at themissing@hotmail.co.uk
Thank you for your continued interest in our missing boys and
the issue of missing people in general. Niki and I continue to
plan other ideas that will result in better services for the families
and those left behind to cope when a loved one goes
missing.........
MISSING PEOPLE ARE NOT A NEW ISSUE
Parent’s and families of missing people are coming together with
a “voice in unison” regarding the phenomenon of missing people.
Whatever the circumstances are that a person may go missing, it
is a living nightmare for those left behind. For all families, who
have a family member that has gone missing, we are asking for
the government to help and support us in this dilemma.
It can no longer be left to the family and the local authorities to
handle these cases.
We would like the government to address this problem by
passing of a bill for the ‘Missing’ and to make available funds to
support and counsel and advise the families left behind to deal
with this dilemma.
themissing@hotmail.co.uk